The "D" Word

"So..... you're going through a divorce, I'm sooo sorry."

For what? Why are you sorry? You don't even know me that well. Anyone who does isn't sorry. I want to hit you with a stick now. Feel sorry for him, or yourself - I'm happy. Perhaps what they are saying is an incomplete comment, such as:

Wannabe Empaths: "I'm so sorry, you must be hurting"

Right-Wing Christians: "I'm so sorry, now you'll spend eternity in hell."

Nosy People: "I'm so sorry, who left who?"

Idiots & Majority: "I'm so sorry; I don't know what else to say because this has been programmed into me by television and media - I think the last divorce I encountered was on Days of Our Lives. Or was it Smallville?"

Come to think of it, I never noticed (and I still don't understand) why people feel the need to be sympathetic or empathetic about divorce - majorily towards the woman. Is there still stigma that implicates divorce to be a failure weighed more on the side of one gender rather than the other? Or an indiscretion? Furthermore, does it always have to be a negative situation?

I wouldn't necessarily call divorce something I am "going through" either. It isn't a tunnel, it isn't a tube of toothpaste, or a box of chocolates. Experience? No. I don't know what to call it exactly. The most accurate description I can apply at the moment would be "A period of self growth and appreciation that had to entail the seperation of one person from another."

Another phrase I love to hear:
"You don't want to end up alone do you?"

Ummm.... what? Where's my stick? I'm 26 years old. I don't need a man or a woman to complete who I am, or want to be, or to influence my personal well being. I never will. When (and IF) I am karmically and emotionally ready to commit myself to another serious relationship, I will. If I don't find that person to relate to, so be it. I'm not afraid of time. Romantic and intimate companionship is a nifty and gratifying bonus in life, but in no way is it mandatory or necessary for me to be happy.. really. I'm not that type of person I suppose. Perhaps I invest too much of myself into serious relationships, and for now I am just taking some time for me, for my own personal reflection.

Perhaps I should start a stick collection.



"I ain't no damsel in distress,

and I don't need to be rescued,

so put me down punk.

Wouldn't you prefer a maiden fair??

Isn't there a kitten....

stuck up a tree somewhere?"